The Storm That Built The Forge-Ep 56
After almost a year of silence — the podcast is back.
The last episode went out in July of last year. And then I went quiet. Not because I ran out of things to say. Because life asked me to stop talking and start surviving.
This episode is the full story. I'm not going to dress it up or give you the polished version. I'm going to tell you what happened, what it cost, and what it built — because I think you need to hear it.
In this episode:
I talk about leaving the Marines in 2021 and the identity crisis that followed — 10 months separated from my family, navigating the uncertainty of a complete life transition largely alone. I talk about how I rebuilt my identity around being a husband and father, and how that became my purpose and my drive.
And then I talk about July of last year. When my wife asked for a divorce. How I kept it to myself at first, convinced it was a bump in the road. How things got so dark that I started having conversations in my head I'm not proud of — and what I did to make sure I stayed here.
What saved me was my village. A few people I could text at any hour. Coffee meetups. Walks when I needed to keep moving. I didn't have The Forge then. I had a few good people. And that was barely enough.
I also walk through what that season actually built — using four principles from the FINDORA framework:
Foundations — examining what my life was actually built on, not what I thought it was built on. A lot of it wasn't solid. The storm showed me that.
Identity — losing two identities in four years forced me to ask who I was underneath the roles. Who are we without the titles, the accolades, the achievements?
Ownership — a question from one of my brothers changed everything for me: "Are you making this decision out of love or fear?" That question clarified more than months of reflection.
Action — I left my 15-year career as an air traffic controller. I went all in on my business. I built The Forge. I'm recording this podcast. All of it came from deciding to stop surviving and start building.
The storm didn't destroy me. It clarified me.
This is May — Mental Health Awareness Month. I brought this show back now specifically because men's mental health isn't just about crisis. It's about the everyday weight most men carry quietly. That's what this show is going to be about. Real resilience. No fluff.
New episodes every Tuesday.
LINKS:
🔥 Join The Forge — men's group online + Fort Wayne: HERE
📖 Free FINDORA Framework Guide: HERE
📧 Reach Matt directly: [email protected]
🌐 Website: www.mattfindora.com
IF YOU OR SOMEONE YOU KNOW IS STRUGGLING: 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline — call or text 988. Available 24 hours a day.
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